Monday, August 13, 2012

THIS Is What It's Like To Be Long-Term Unemployed

THIS Is What It's Like To Be Long-Term Unemployed
I've discussed unemployment and underemployment at length, but, outside of one post of advice to the current jobless, I haven't discussed the human impact of long-term unemployment. You see, joblessness is more than separation from your life's work. It's separation from your life.

I've either been unemployed or underemployed since earning my MBA in 2008. Outside of the occasional consulting project, odd jobs have sustained me. I've had to move back in with my mother, and I've danced around the embarrassing "what are you up to these days" question so many times I've become a regular Fred Astaire.

I kept a positive attitude for the first year or two. Economic depression be damned, I was going to get a job and get on with my life! I kept myself in tip-top shape and I maintained a go-getter demeanor. In fact, I was frequently complemented for the positive vibes I radiated, even at the menial job I was working at the time. Then, after around the 500-750th job rejection, the fear crept in that I would be poor for the rest of my life. Slowly, I began to lose hope. And then, by year 3, I simply gave up. The fact that I was working a menial job and living with my mother had already made me toxic to women. So I decided to just let myself go. I quit exercising and started to eat and drink and smoke as much as I wanted. And my health went downhill, and I didn't care. Because there was no point in caring.

I'm clearly pulling myself back together, and publishing this blog gives me a reason to look forward to getting up in the morning. And, my consulting work has been picking up. I have hope again. And a little radiance. Anyway, that's my story as a long-term unemployed young male. Thanks for reading it.

3 comments:

  1. Found this thru Twitter. Thanks for sharing your story. I lost a job in early 2009 after 10 yrs w the same co. I was 40 yrs old so I am the mom. Noone to move back in with,a young child and thankfully my husband works. We lost half our income so its been very tough. I did stay busy volunteering & "consulting" and after the first 2yrs I gave up. I had back surgery at the 2 yr mark and since its a tough comeback. I have yrs of experience and saw a great opportunity so thought i'd try for it. Well;I interviewed & got passed over for that $10 hr job.( i used to make 80k) I act like I'm a stay at home mom because I "want" to. I have no advice but know you are not alone. This is also why I am spending every free moment volunteering for Obama. Best of luck to you. Keep up the blog.

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  2. Dan, the EPJ Reader GuyAugust 15, 2012 at 4:30 AM

    Keep fighting the good fight, Seth. I know others in your situation. They are none the lesser men for it. Only get stronger. Keep strugglin' but not the breaking point. This blog is good venting. Head-clearing. Sanity reinforcement. You do it very well, too.

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